I’m a fan of Carlos Castenedas writing and although it’s not directed specifically at gender, one of his insights into becoming a warrior is to lose your identity. One of the reasons is because as you build your social circles people come to put expectations on you and you then have to perform to those expectations. A warrior is adaptive to what is intuitively needed to survive at any moment. The couple essays I just read of yours brought to mind his writing, especially in mentioning the detransistioned. This is what becoming a warrior is about, breaking through this rigid structure of who we have been told and shown to be and being who we are, whoever that may be at any given moment.